Hayden had his one year appointment on Tuesday, still cannot believe it has been a year, where has the time gone?!
The appointment went really good, he is growing good, and developing very good as well! I was happy to hear that, since lately there has been some people that have commented on how small he is for a one year old. But the doctor showed no concern, so therefore I am not concerned anymore, I need to learn to ignore what people say about his size. Everyone else is just having monster babies!
Hayden had three needles! Two were very small, and the third looked as big as his arm! I thought for sure that one he would have screamed! But he didn't cry at all, he just sat there, got poked, looked at the doctor all funny and then wanted her to pick him up (he was sitting on my lap). Everytime Hayden gets a needle, he never wants me to pick him up or keep holding him, he wants to be picked up by the doctor! Go figure eh? I still cannot figure it out!
After the needles, she gave him a sucker and we were on our way!
Ever since Hayden has turned one, it seems like his personality has completly changed! Before he turned one, he would listen pretty good, NOT bite, NOT hit, and he would HARDLY throw a temper tantrum!
Now he DOES BITE, HIT and we deal with temper tantrums and time outs on a daily basis! I don't know what the problem is. There are days where I go to bed feeling like a complete failure because he spent most of the day in my lap being held down because he is throwing a tantrum of the centry and I am scared he is going to hurt himself, or he is in his crib the majority of the afternoon because when I tell him to stop playing with the TV it sounds like someone is being murdered in our house with all his screaming. It has come to the point where we don't know what too do. Do we continue with the timeouts till he gets it, like how long do we need to do something before he learns, or realizing that it isn't working.
Yesterday was the first day where I started to have hope that maybe the time outs are starting to work and he is starting to get it. He threw a temper tantrum because I would not let him play in the fridge, when I picked him up to move him to the living room to play with him, he clobbered me across the face and then took a chunk out of my arm with his TEETH, ( it is funny now that I think of it, but it wasn't at the time!) so I took him to his crib to have 1 mintue time out ( I have read somewhere you are supposed to give them timed time outs according to thier age). When I went back to get him to "talk to him", meaning I talk to him and he just looks around at Elmo on his wall! But yesterday he looked at me, and I don't know if he saw the tears in my eyes, but he gave me a hug and looked at me like he was saying sorry and this will not last forever mom! I then knew that this might be working and NOT to give up! Everything will be okay in the end and soon enough he will understand!
This past week/month so far, has been the most challenging for me as a mother. I am so thankful for my husband that comes home and gives me time just to be by myself and he will take care of Hayden, if I didn't have that, I think I would have lost my mind already! I know this will not last forever, and soon he will be going to school and he will mature and not throw temper tantrums, and I know that one day I will miss these days!
On a more positive note, everytime the phone rings, Hayden saids HI! It is so cute!
As much as I hate the stage he is now, I love him and would NOT change it for anything!
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